Today my mother spoke directly to me, which is rare.
She of course reminded me of all of the hurt and pain that I have caused the family because of my children dying. The first two grandchildren in the family. It was then that it seemed to me that my Teen Mom Turned Warrior Grandma had finally gotten a clue about what life is about.
She decided that everyone who is HAPPY is on DRUGS.
Then She decided that everyone who was ANGRY was MENTALLY ILL.
Good talk, Bindie.
Turns out that you’re wrong.
Because it turns out that every nasty horrible thing you had just at the tip of your tongue, ready to fire, and I heard this, and Oh My God That, And in case of emergency……doesn’t stand a chance. When it comes to the difference between right and wrong. It turns out that THIS mom, the one who was chosen for the role of Mommy to Jaxon Tyler and Henry William, knows the difference between neglect and simply class differences.
She continually asks for Kleenexes.
I don’t SPEND MONEY on KLEENEXES.
Next is that they aren’t covered enough. Good. From a woman who MAKES [QUILTS] blankets in her LEISURE TIME.
But When ASKED, BY HER DAUGHTER WHO HAS THREE SMALL CHILDREN IF SHE HAS ANY EXTRA BLANKETS, says, “No.”
She CONTINUALLY reminds me that I haven’t taken “RESPONSIBILITY” and that it is not her “JOB” to take care of my offspring, although she does it begrudgingly…..
No, Brenda. It ISN’T your JOB to care for other small human beings who you seem to have focused your existence around………oh ….wait, THAT IS YOUR JOB. Soooooo…………do you only care about them if you are getting paid for ….. “watching” them?
Is this why I have to hear about every single penny that you have spent on them, every minuscule effort, every goal met that you proudly take credit for….. but what you DON’T say,……….. what NOBODY says–……….IS THIS: Yeah, my kids who came into this life 6 weeks premature and everything has been harder for them to learn than it would be for average kids. But HERE’S the THING: Instead of shaming and blaming and being judgmental and horrid to their Mothers……what about something different for a change?…………..
WHAT ABOUT focusing on POSITIVE reinforcements and STRENGTH building and Encouraging A Positive Value System?